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59 Seconds: Think a Little, Change a Lot A psychologist and best selling author gives us a myth busting response to the self help movement, with tips and tricks to improve your life that come straight from the scientific communityRichard Wiseman has been troubled by the realization that the self help industry often promotes exercises that destroy motivation, damage relationships, and reduce creativity the opposite of everything it promises Now, inSeconds, he fights back, bringing together the diverse scientific advice that can help you change your life in under a minute, and guides you toward becoming decisive, imaginative, engaged, and altogether happyFrom mood to memory, persuasion to procrastination, resilience to relationships, Wiseman outlines the research supporting the new science of rapid change and, with clarity and infectious enthusiasm, describes how these quirky, sometimes counterintuitive techniques can be effortlessly incorporated into your everyday life Or, as he likes to say Think a little, change a lot From the Hardcover edition We all get used to what we have very quickly Buying a new car or bigger house provides a short term feel good boost, but we quickly become accustomed to it and sink back to our pre purchase level of joy Thanks to our capacity to adapt to ever greater fame and fortune, yesterday s luxuries can soon become today s Necessities and tomorrow s relics If money cannot buy happiness, what is the best way of putting a long term smile on your face Consist of 10 chapters, my favourite point would be t We all get used to what we have very quickly Buying a new car or bigger house provides a short term feel good boost, but we quickly become accustomed to it and sink back to our pre purchase level of joy Thanks to our capacity to adapt to ever greater fame and fortune, yesterday s luxuries can soon become today s Necessities and tomorrow s relics If money cannot buy happiness, what is the best way of putting a long term smile on your face Consist of 10 chapters, my favourite point would be the first one which is Happiness Why positive thinking often fails, how the real route to happiness involves a pencil, keeping the perfect diary, small acts of kindness and developing the gratitude attitude.In this particular chapter, I like to quote a passage that is very relatable to me Happiness makes peoplesociable and altruistic, it increases how much they like themselves and others, it improves their ability to resolve conflict and it strengthens their immune systems Right after reading the first chapter, I ve made the point into my youtube content Biblio Mom about the act of hoarding books In that video, I mentioned that our happiness is fabricated by consuming things and it is temporary That feeling always ended up being washed away.Its a good read for personal and general growth According to the title, Think a little, change a lot , it tells us to get things done rather than just thinking about them all the time Because actions should speaks louder than words and thoughts.As Malay s saying Angan angan Mat Jenin that mean someoe that has dreams but only live in his dreams without even trying to achieve them So pick up an insightfull books, read them, and ACT If you want, I ll give you one marshmallow now If you read through the whole review, however, I ll give you two Ready Let s go Do you have problems Of course you have problems We all have problems Maybe you want to land a new job, or lose weight or finish a project you re working on Maybe you find that you procrastinate too much, or you don t get along with people, or you can t be creative Maybe you just want to be happy, you poor, sad little person.These are the kinds of problems that If you want, I ll give you one marshmallow now If you read through the whole review, however, I ll give you two Ready Let s go Do you have problems Of course you have problems We all have problems Maybe you want to land a new job, or lose weight or finish a project you re working on Maybe you find that you procrastinate too much, or you don t get along with people, or you can t be creative Maybe you just want to be happy, you poor, sad little person.These are the kinds of problems that have spawned an entire industry of books the Self Help genre Go to your local bookstore and look around There are countless books that tell you how you can make yourself better through positive thinking, creative visualization, listening to Mozart or joining up with groups They ll tell you that if you want to find romance, you should look for an opposite, you should play hard to get, or you should plan a perfectly romantic evening They ll cite ancient wisdom or have countless testimonials from people who have tried their methods, and almost all of them have one thing in common they don t work.The self help genre rests on a foundation of common sense ideas, things that sound like they should work, rather than an understanding of how the human mind actually does work Often, much to our chagrin, our minds don t follow the rules, and we fail Take positive thinking, for example The general gist of positive thinking is that you should never allow a negative thought to enter your mind If one pops up, just push it away and focus on the positive.Quick experiment I want you, for the next minute, to not I repeat not think of a pink hippopotamus Ready GO Waiting waiting waiting How d you do I don t know about you, but my pink hippo is rather contentedly sitting on my sofa right now The fact is, thewe try not to think of something, the harder it is to not think about it You then end up obsessing over the thing you re trying not to think of, which is what you were trying to avoid in the first place It s an idea that sounds like it should work, but it doesn t, and that s what Wiseman has collected in this book Wiseman is a psychologist from the UK, and he has a particular interest not only in the science of self help, but also magic, optical illusions and the paranormal In other words, he s very good at knowing how we humans fool ourselves And boy, do we know how to fool ourselves.We want to believe that humans are rational creatures, intelligently designed to make the best decisions We spent years studying the world around us, trying to figure out how to motivate ourselves and others, and operating under the assumption that we know what our brains are doing at any give time Problem is, we don t We have no idea what our brains are doing while we re trying to get things done The good news is that there s are entire branches of psychology that are doing their damndest to figure it out Wiseman combed through the literature, looking at scientific studies on human psychology and behavior to try and find simple, clear and effective ways of making your life better The bonus is that many of these things can be done in under a minute.Some of the things he presents are so simple that you don t want to believe they d work For example, do you want to be a littlecheerful, to have a brighter outlook on life and be generallypleasant to be around Go get a pencil and hold it with your teeth, making sure your lips don t touch the pencil Your mouth will basically be making a grin, which will have a positive impact on your mood Seriously While you re at it, sit up straight, useexpressive gestures when you talk, and try to use a wider range of pitch in your speech Your body and mind are hooked up in such a way that your body can tell your mind what it s feeling So if you have a grin on your face, and you re talking in an animated and upbeat way, your brain will think, Well, these are all physical conditions that are associated with happiness, so I guess I must be happy You can use the same trick on a first date Instead of a nice, placid picnic in the park or a boat ride on the river, go to an amusement park and hit the roller coaster together The fear and excitement will make your date s heart beat faster, breathe harder, and generally beexcited These are also physical reactions to being attracted to someone, and your brain really can t tell the difference very well It feels your heart pounding, your blood rushing, your adrenaline flowing, and it thinks, Huh I guess I must really like this person So, once you get off that ride, you have a little window of opportunity to increase the attraction you have for each other.Now let s say you re angry about something I mean, you re hitting George Constanza levels here, and all you want to do is just hit something There is a way of thinking that says you should go hit your pillow Or go to the gym and do some work on the heavy bag, punching your anger away If you live far enough away from others, maybe you could do some primal screaming or something It makes sense, right You have to let your anger out somewhere, right Wrong Studies have shown that kicking and screaming and beating up your pillow will make youaggressive and irritable, not less It s like trying to put out a fire with a bucket of gasoline What you should do, then, is to look for the benefits to your experience Researchers asked subjects to think about a painful and unpleasant incident in their lives and to focus on their anger Another group was asked to instead focus on the benefits they had learned an important lesson, had become an emotionally stronger person, or had otherwise changed for the better When questioned later, the second group turned out to be much less angry than the first, and to belikely to forgive the person who had hurt them.Okay, oneyou want to be creative, right We all want that So, should you brainstorm with your colleagues Focus on the creative task at hand Listen to Mozart No, no and no, although there s really never any reason not to listen to Mozart Again, research has shown that people tend to work less hard in groups than they do on their own Being in a group makes you lazier, so if you want to get good ideas from a whole bunch of people, have them work alone first You ll getand better ideas that way As for focusing on the problem at hand, other studies have shown that the best thing to do is to distract yourself with something totally unrelated so that your unconscious mind can get some work done Work on a puzzle, draw a picture, think of a hundred ways to use a brick anything but the problem you re trying to solve Then, when you come back to the problem, you relikely to generate better ideas.As for the Mozart, it turns out that listening to Mozart does make you slightlycreative and intelligent for about fifteen minutes Neither you nor your baby will become a genius if you listen to Wolfie s music every day What s actuallyeffective is modern art especially art that breaks our expectations In one study, two groups were given a creativity task One was seated in a room with a large print that featured twelve dark green crosses on a light green background The other had almost an identical picture, except that one of the crosses was yellow, and they came up with thecreative ideas Why should this be The idea is that the impression of unconventionality, of a pattern being broken, may be enough to stimulate our own creativity Now it won t turn you into DaVinci or anything like that, but it should help at least a little.And that s what this book is lots of little ideas that are designed to help you out Put a mirror in your kitchen, put a baby photograph in your wallet, buy small gifts for no reason Put a plant on your desk, start keeping a journal, and don t praise your kids for how clever they are praise them for the work they ve done Everything Wiseman puts in this book is a small thing, a little effort, but when put together they add up.Even if you don t really need a lot of alteration to your life maybe you re as happy as happy can be it s still a fascinating look into how our mids work, and the different ways that they can be hacked Good work Here are your marshmallows Now if you take part in a study and the researchers explain that they need your telephone number in case of a hard disk failure, they are up to something Richard Wiseman, 59 Seconds I ve read a lot of pop psychology books, but this one is quite different from the rest Each chapter of this book takes a topic and describes various scientific psychology experiments that have direct bearing on the topic Many of the experiments came to non intuitive conclusions about human behavior Then, the book shows how you, the reader, can take advantage of these conclusions in your everyday life Scattered throughout the book are short psychological questionnaires that help focus the app I ve read a lot of pop psychology books, but this one is quite different from the rest Each chapter of this book takes a topic and describes various scientific psychology experiments that have direct bearing on the topic Many of the experiments came to non intuitive conclusions about human behavior Then, the book shows how you, the reader, can take advantage of these conclusions in your everyday life Scattered throughout the book are short psychological questionnaires that help focus the approach on your individual personality.So many myths about human behavior are turned upside down in this book The myth that brainstorming with a group of people will come up with better ideas is exploded If you want a first date to be successful, take your date to some activity that will get your excitement levels up, that will elevate your heart rates Praise a child for the effort that he she showed in some endeavor, rather than praising the child for being smart or fast If you want a big favor from someone, first ask them for a small, insignificant favor It is difficult if not impossible to detect a liar by his facial expressions, eye contact, fidgety behavior or tone of voice The best giveaway is actually his choice of words.This is a truly entertaining book It successfully melds scientific research with advice on handling situations Highly recommended I liked it.Speaking as a former cognitive psychologist, I take issue with the interpretation of some of the results But speaking as a former cognitive psychologist, this is the best self help book I ve read in a long, long time and I ve read a lot of em The suggestions here are backed by research, and are very easy to implement I might make a goal of focusing on one a month until I become so happy I m insufferable.

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