The Enneagram of Parenting: The 9 Types of Children and

The Enneagram of Parenting: The 9 Types of Children and How to Raise Them Successfully Great resource for parents or anyone who works or is around kids often The emphasis isn t on typing your kids, but rather looking at the qualities your child holds of each or certain types Very helpful in understanding my kids in certain situations where I really cannot begin to imagine how why they are feeling what they are feeling Will definitely be one I pick up from time to time, reread and absorb a lot over the coming years as my kids grow. This definitely gave me some insights into my work with kids and helped me to see things from their perspective, but it felt a little too generalized I would have loved to seefocus on us as parents and how our numbers impact our parenting. Elizabeth Wagele, coauthor of The Enneagram Made Easy and Are You My Type, Am I Yours , offers the first practical guidebook for parents packed with her delightful cartoons on how the Enneagram can help to understand and work with children s personality traits and behavioral patterns effectively and creatively Using her expertise in making the Enneagram accessible through simple text and zany, informative cartoons, Wagele shows parents how to be flexible and compassionate, willing and eager to recognize the unique potential of every child and to respond to and nurture each child appropriately Fantastic resource for anyone with children in their life, whether or not they re a parent I m glad the emphasis is on children containing qualities of a type, instead of typing children Their personalities can change so much Still, there s concrete information and practical applications that will be helpful. Not enlightening I have read books discovering my own Enneagram type, and they were fantastic and enlightening I was curious and excited to learn about my child s type and how I could apply it and use it to build on his strengths I expected to use a similar method that I used to discovering my own This was where I read paragraphs and selected the top three that I relate to Then narrowing it down evenand learning about the wings and arrow types However, this book really seemed to be th Not enlightening I have read books discovering my own Enneagram type, and they were fantastic and enlightening I was curious and excited to learn about my child s type and how I could apply it and use it to build on his strengths I expected to use a similar method that I used to discovering my own This was where I read paragraphs and selected the top three that I relate to Then narrowing it down evenand learning about the wings and arrow types However, this book really seemed to be thrown together in a way that just basically says check these boxes, if your kid has many of these, they are operating in this type right now I could check off at least 50% of the boxes for each type there was no aha moment that made me feel like the author had captured my son s type Even if I had figured out which one is my son, I would have been incredibly disappointed reading about how to handle certain situations each type has about 20 cartoons drawn throughout, with about 2 3 sentences of advice stuck in between For example, if my son is a peacemaker type, I can simply help him do his homework by making him do it at the same time every day Period End of the education section I was thoroughly surprised at the rest of the parenting advice in the back of the book It made no sense to stick it in a book devoted to Enneagram types Advice ranged from just let them be themselves to if you use drugs, your kid might try them too and I m not kidding about the last one I really enjoyed this book I love personality typing and the enneagram, but assumed that I wouldn t really be able to use it with my children since a person s type doesn t solidify until adulthood Wagele gets around that by explaining that your children may be acting in a certain type as a child and then later change so it s helpful to notice what traits they re exhibiting, but not to box them into a type too early I wouldn t recommend this as an introductory enneagram book because I just d I really enjoyed this book I love personality typing and the enneagram, but assumed that I wouldn t really be able to use it with my children since a person s type doesn t solidify until adulthood Wagele gets around that by explaining that your children may be acting in a certain type as a child and then later change so it s helpful to notice what traits they re exhibiting, but not to box them into a type too early I wouldn t recommend this as an introductory enneagram book because I just don t think it has enough information You really need to already have a basic understanding of the enneagram before reading it The lack of information is one of my main complaints about the book It s a short, easy read, which I know a lot of people like, but I thought it barely scratched the surface of the topic I wanted a lotdiscussion of each type and how you can deal with challenges in each specific child The last chapter was frustrating because Wagele just started talking about various parenting challenges that had nothing to do with the enneagram I guess she thought they were important and they are but in a way, that actually made it worse that she seemed to be trying major problems in three paragraphs each If a parent has problems with a teenager and an eating disorder, they need to be reading a book JUST about that, not this book and speaking with professionals, etc Other recommendations for smaller problems seemed exasperatingly obvious Wagele should have maximized the space she had and stayed in her lane However, the parts that were actually about the enneagram were very informative and fun to read This book is interesting enough There are illustrations in every chapter and it makes for a pretty quick read The author refers to the 9 numbers types as styles in children, acknowledging that their type may change as they develop and grow After an introduction, she devotes one chapter to each number, and addresses particular topics What follows are 3 4 quotes about child rearing, written from the perspective of each number It also includes a brief paragraph about basic tendencies of each This book is interesting enough There are illustrations in every chapter and it makes for a pretty quick read The author refers to the 9 numbers types as styles in children, acknowledging that their type may change as they develop and grow After an introduction, she devotes one chapter to each number, and addresses particular topics What follows are 3 4 quotes about child rearing, written from the perspective of each number It also includes a brief paragraph about basic tendencies of each number as a parent, so it would seem helpful to know your own number before reading The book concludes with a section called 20 Additional Problem Areas This is not so much connected to the Enneagram, as it is general parenting child rearing advice written from a seemingly mindfulness parenting perspective Perhaps I missed something, but this didn t directly connect to the rest of the book I imagine it might be helpful for some readers nonetheless I read this in one day, don t regret it, but it s not one I would immediately recommend This is the only enneagram parenting book I have read however, there are much better books out there on the enneagram than this While I appreciated the cartoons some were really great, others left me wondering if I had missed a joke somewhere , I didn t understand the addition of the chapter on parenting at the end It seemed outdated to read in 2018, but also misplaced Why is this book giving me general parenting advice that has little to nothing to do with the enneagram Truly enjoyed this sweet simple book on application of enneagram towards parenting children as a 9w1 happily married to an 8w9, it was neat to understand the ever changing style of personality of our own two young beautiful beings Proudly raising a brilliant and kind 2w3 styled four year old daughter joyful and inquisitive 5w6 styled three year old son the love of my life I are looking forward to learning their true personalities as our children develop and grow with age, but we both Truly enjoyed this sweet simple book on application of enneagram towards parenting children as a 9w1 happily married to an 8w9, it was neat to understand the ever changing style of personality of our own two young beautiful beings Proudly raising a brilliant and kind 2w3 styled four year old daughter joyful and inquisitive 5w6 styled three year old son the love of my life I are looking forward to learning their true personalities as our children develop and grow with age, but we both love honoring who they presently are Recommended read for fellow adoring parents This is a fun book for anyone who is familiar with the enneagram It is full of illustrations which makes it a quick and easy to read There are some general questions for each type to help you guess what your child s personality type is I recommend learning about the enneagram for your own growth as well as getting a better understanding of the other significant people in your life But then again, I m a Five and I love knowledge


About the Author: Elizabeth Wagele

Elizabeth Wagele attended the University of California in Berkeley majoring in music composition She raised 4 children with husband Gus and lives in Berkeley She enjoys playing the piano, gardening, writing, grandchildren, walking in Berkeley and San Francisco, morning coffee at her local cafe Her newest book is The Enneagram of Death Helpful Insights by the 9 Types of People on Grief, Fear, and Death.


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